What I Want in a Relationship

coupleA few weeks ago Culture Counter Mag sent out a call for entries  with the prompt, “What I Want in a Relationship.” I don’t write often about my romantic yearnings, but it felt time to put them out there.  I’m not on a husband hunt or actively looking for a partner, it feels really good to know what I want.

Ultimately, I realized it’s a feeling of familiarity and a silliness. Someone who is enough like me for a common understanding and enough unlike me to make things interesting. Read my full entry here.

Safe, Strong, Stable, and Secure

RootsWhen I imagined my ideal partner he was usually strong, stable, and secure. He was consistent and steady and I could rely on him no matter what…in a word: safe. That is the biggest turn-on for me is knowing a man will show up and not disappear allowing me to fully be myself without fear he will run away. And in my best relationships the men have been that, and so have most of my jobs, and friends…and my apartments. I notice a theme in my life of relying on other things/people to be safe in order for me to feel safe…which of course isn’t safe. Continue reading Safe, Strong, Stable, and Secure

Magic in the Mundane

ycunicornThe past several months I’ve been what some would call “depressed” and my therapist (and others) would call “spiritual depressed.”

I have felt dead inside, unable to see the magic in existence. I used to mock being a part of zombie land on the bus and at work, somehow it became me. Somehow I lost my sense of awe for being alive. I blame my job, but it’s my own fault. I gave up; I gave up on living a more full life. Continue reading Magic in the Mundane

Sadness and Slowness {Lessons from the Crone}

tumblr_static_tumblr_static_phases_of_the_moon__1_This weekend I watched hordes of hopeful renters walk around the unit across the hall from me. After months of watching constructions works tearing apart the apartment she lived in for the past 30 years. I felt a sadness creep into my heart realizing I will probably never see my 97-year old neighbor, Dorothy,  ever again. And, yet I’m also somewhat relieved. Continue reading Sadness and Slowness {Lessons from the Crone}

"The world will be saved by the Western woman." ~Dalai Lama


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